More advice...

Erik, Keep up the good work on the site... enjoying it. I've enjoyed the relationship advice for a while now.. glad to see you're interested in "coaching" some guys like me to becoming a great player... Need Help... I feel like I'm in Purgatory.. I just grad. from college, finally at 23; so no more seeing 100's of young hotties every day. But I'm not in a career either.. so the "career women" don't apply. Should I be "that guy" that's the old ass still trying to get w/ college girls.. or move on to something else? Where to look now? Thanks man

my response:

first of all you arent old... I am 30 and college chicks dig me... I am not old... A lady will decide if you are interesting or not based on a number of things... So dont count yourself out because of stupid things like age... YOU ARENT OLD...

You should make yourself available to all women that you see... If you are the type of guy to go to a certain place then you should feel like you are there for all of the women in the joint... Somehow you have to have something in common with all the ladies there no matter who theyare or where the came from simply because you chose the same spot right?... Its not much... But its something...

You have to see women in the day right?... Unless you stay at home... But there a beautuful women everywhere... So i know you have opportunities...

You have to be confident... Something that i notice with young guys is that your "confidence" is only bravado to make up for your poor self-image... One of the ways this is manifested is in your pickyness with women... If you are a guy who is constantly saying that some nice girl isnt "hot" enough then you might be suffering from low self-esteem youself... You need a chick to be so hot so that you can feel beautiful yourself... If this is you then forget being successful with the ladies... You will not likely ever be able to display that true confidence that a mature man has.. And thats what women find irrisistable.... You wont ever see the beauty and sexuality that every woman has because you wont see that in yourself...

All the most successful cassanovas that i have known were all men who appreciated the beauty of all women... They were so confident and centered that didnt ask anything of their partners but to be their beautiful selves... And i have heard some of these guys say "i dont really need a lady to fit any particular notion of hottness because i am hot enough for the both of us"... And thats really true for a confident guy who enjoys his own sexuality...

the key to meeting women and having them like you is to be comfortable in your skin and to be confident... And this comes with maturity... Which comes with age... Which means all women are more likely to choose this type of guy who is strong and centered and he is most likely older...

Ex: you are sitting at the bar and see a girl you like walk by and you "say "sit down here and order yourself a drink"... And she sits right on your lap and orders herself a drink... That works... Because she was open to a confident guy... and she wanted a free drink... but hey... She is on you lap...

So- you arent old and you cant care about how it looks to anyone...

You should make yourself open to be chosen by any women that you come into contact with... It doesnt matter if she has such and such a job or not...

Confidence and comfort with your own being...

Stop thinking you are there to "get with" a lady... Thats desparate... You are out to be chosen by a lady because of the manly and attractive qualities that you display... You go out and you do your thing... And they will notice... Sometimes you have to say a few words to get some attention but then its back to doing your thing and NOT trying to do the desparate "get with"...

it doesnt always happen right away... a woman will notice you and what it takes is for her to notice you over time... thats why you need to frequent the same places at the same times... a lady will see you once.. then see you again.. and she may watch you for weeks before you even know she knows you exist... this happens at school, at work, church, bars, clubs, grocery stores... EVERYWHERE women meet men... you need to give a woman ample opportunity to see you over a period of time...

in france, i went to the same bar few times a week at the same times.. and i got to know everyone... and i met a lot of girls there.. they had seen me... they knew people that had met me.. and they saw me making freinds and hanging out with everyone and being a popular guy... thats how it goes...

old saul met a cute girl because he was open to meeting every girl he came into contact with.. and he is confident and funny... it works...