last advice from a reader... then i am done...

All these guys writing you about keeping their women and having time for cycling. It's all about keeping your wife or girlfriend involved. At least that's what I figured out with my wife. When I go for a long training ride I always ask my wife if I can call her if I flat, I take her to the bike store with me a lot of times. Tell her how stoked I am about whatever ride or race is coming up, ask her to be there. Also, I ride with my wife at least once a week, and it kills me because she rides a cruiser and on the city paths. But it's worth it. I think that's the key -- she sees cycling as something she's involved with me and not something she's in competition with. The proof dude? She bought me a DA group for my ride this summer for a birthday present and we're broke (especially now). But I always talked about it and she sees cycling as one of our connections. She definitely isn't one of those needy wife types either.